How to get into Second Life without really trying

Selby Evans is Thinkerer Melville in Second Life

Is self-confidence a problem or a tool?  For those who have enough of it, self-confidence is a tool.  For those who wish they had more of it, self-confidence may be a problem.  There are several reasons why people may wish for more self-confidence.  Here are some common reasons.

Optimism does not say the bad won’t happen.  It says you can cope with it. 

Quick Tricks

Bounce-Back Slogans and Tips

Confidence Slogans and Tips

Effort Slogans 

Mood Slogans 

Planning Slogans and Tips

Risk Slogans 

Tranquility Base Slogans 

Kryptonite Tips 
Easy Self-Confidence

Head Staff

Shudoff: We should give people more quick tricks to build self-confidence.

Canter:  People can’t build self-confidence with tricks.  They will not be tricked.

Hunter:  People build self-confidence by experiencing what they can do.

Engineer:  By planning and seeing that their plans work. 

Un:  By finding the key that works.

Canter: You can’t be sure that they can find the key.

Un:  The key that works is always the last one you try.

Head Staff

Confidence Tips
Vulcan
Un
Empath
Engineer
 

Unspecified goals.  If you don’t set goals, you won’t have anything to feel confident about.  Of course, you don’t need to feel self-confident because you can’t fail.  If you can’t fail, you can’t win. 

If you don’t know what the goal is,
how will you know when you've won?

You cannot feel self-confident in the abstract.  Go to the Goal Clipit and start setting some personal goals for yourself.  In the process you will find some things to feel self-confident about.

Fear of “failure”.  Some people take “failure” or the prospect of “failure” too seriously.  Notice how we used quotes around that word.  “Failure” is a value term.  It doesn’t tell you want happened.  It tells you how you are supposed (or expected) to react to it.   Other people may use other terms for what happened and they may react differently.

We are not limited by our fears. 
We are limited by our choices.

Underrated skills.  Some people don’t notice their skills.  They may use a skill effectively.  Or not.  They may use the skill at the right time.  Or not.  They haven’t thought about it.   

The secret of confidence is to know your resources.

Maybe they don’t need to think about it.  But if you want more self-confidence, try a check of what you have to feel self-confident about.  Start with an inventory of your Strengths.

I’ve always wanted more self-confidence,
 but I don’t think I’m worth it.

Exercises See your skills in action.

Self-confidence Clipit

Tools: Your Skills set

Know your skills

Strengths
Skills you are already good at.

Unrecognized success.  Some people fail to notice their goals.  And they fail to notice when they achieve their goals.  Or they underestimate the value of subgoals. 

If you don’t notice when you win,
 you will only notice when you lose.

Insufficient practice in the bounce-back routine.   Suppose you want to feel self-confident about your swimming skills.  What do you do?

You read books about swimming, of course.  You attend lectures about swimming.  You watch videos about swimming.  You talk to yourself about your swimming abilities. 

If you believe this, there’s that bridge in Brooklyn...

What you really do is swim.  With a little practice, you get to be self-confident.  Practice with the bounce-back routine works the same way. If you give it a chance.

An ounce of success is worth a pound of positive thinking.

The bounce-back routine

Fixers believe they can fix.
Complainers believe they can complain.
They are both right.

Problem solving
Study Tips

The Canters and the Power of Yet